But if I look at it from the outside i would tell myself to not bring up the R and treat her like I would want to be treated.
Yes, and no.
How YOU might want to be treated may be different from how SHE wants to be treated.
One person might want to be treated with "kid gloves", and may want to be treated in a subtle way.
Another person might want to hear it like it is, and be up front with things, in a not-so-subtle way.
The key in dealing with how to handle the situation is looking at what has worked in the past, and repeating that action. If what you're doing hasn't worked before, then try something different.
DO keep in mind that respect for another person is key here.
Believe me I want in the worst way to unload on my wife about what she will potentially be doing to our family if she becomes a WAW.
Have you ever "unloaded" on her before? Or even close to it? Does she know how you feel about the situation? Have you been passive about this situation, and others, in the past?
I'm not telling you to "unload", but to just take some time to really look at what you've done in the past. What has worked, and what hasn't worked.
What would your 180 be?
JJ
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