I reread the beginner's mind section again trying to understand the concept better.
I'm guilty of assuming my potential soon to be WAW is stubborn and always has been so she will never change. But if I look at it from the outside i would tell myself to not bring up the R and treat her like I would want to be treated.
I can't change my wife I can only change myself and hope she reacts to my actions. It is extremely hard sometimes to do that but it is absolutely necessary. Believe me I want in the worst way to unload on my wife about what she will potentially be doing to our family if she becomes a WAW. That will get me nowhere in the long-run.
