WAW does not want to try

[I_Wanna_Make_It_Work]

Ditto to everyone else's post. Less talking and more doing. What are you doing to make yourself a better man and a better husband and a more attractive option for her?

You know from my sitch, waw-p, that my w & I also have no kids. My wife is 2300 miles away, with OM. Has been with OM for more then a year. Moved out of state 9 months ago .... yet she calls me or emails me every day. Not because she has to (no kids, no mail to forward, no support payments). She calls me because she wants to. She enjoys talking to me now. Because I am a different person. She's not ready to return to the marriage - but also not willing to give up yet.

I took off my wedding band for about an hour once, early on, when I was ready to conceed. Not since. And my w knows it. She doesn't have to see it on my finger - she knows it in her heart. And so does the rest of the world. Sure they all think I'm in denial - but I would deny that (LOL). She's my w. We are and will always be connected, with or without kids, with or without the OM, notwithstanding the 2300 miles.

For you, the question is ... do you love your wife and honor your M enough to change you? To work on you? That has to be your focus and the real purpose to GAL'ing. Don't concern yourself with circumstances. Those will change day-to-day. Concern yourself with life-changes. A better YOU strengthens your R - no matter where your W may be emotionally or pysically.