My H has told me he wants a divorce next year and so I am mentally preparing myself for it. I am very glad to hear you say that it is liberating. That is what I hope I shall be saying next year. Thanks for the glimmer of hope (actually more like a spotlight of hope, lol). Good luck to you and hope you blossom post-D!
23 more days to go for me. You have a awesome attitude.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Did you see the post from Always about the wonderful woman on the plane with her? You will enjoy it. I hope you will also see a bit of yourself in the story.
I think you already know what a waste of life it is to try to live in the past or be fearful of the future. The past is behind us and the future is not ours to live. All we have is the present moment and we have the power to make it wonderful for ourselves and others if we will.
You deserve nothing less and I believe you will make your life spectacular.
Some people really need to learn the hard way...and that's me all over. Yes, Was2Sad, living in the past or in fear of the future is a sad waste of time, and yet, I had to do it for a while to understand that it was a death trap.
We each have a path to follow and it is so important that we make mistakes on that path. That's why we should not beat ourselves up for appealing to our most base needs and desires sometimes and forgive ourselves for caving into our urges when we should have been stronger. We all need to do those things to see how unhappy it ultimately makes us.
I hope that's how it works anyway. I'm stubborn. No one can tell me what to do or I go the other way. It's bread in the bone, I'm a mule. But I do learn, eventually and I hope that by sharing some of that experience with my brothers and sisters here, I can shed some light on what it was like to walk the path I walked.
I wish for all of us some peace and joy. I don't believe life is supposed to shower us with riches or good fortune, but I do believe that if we really pay attention, we can notice the good and great things that come into our lives before they pass out of them again. That's what life is--always changing and if you don't open your eyes and take notice it can pass you right on by you without you ever having noticed it was there.
Nic, I wish you Godspeed on this journey my friend, we've been through the fires of hell and it is truly miraculous to come out in one piece on the other side.
I love to read these posts from you. I am so proud of you, and those babies.
You have taught me so much.
I will join you on the other side, soon enough, will have a bottle of wine for you to share with me, as we hug and giggle, and know that the worst is behind us.
I am blessed to know you.
Besos.
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