Hi Joie, I am treading just as you suggested. Being wary of the truth is much more tolerable than trying to uncover lies on my own. H understands that it is OK to tell me hurtful things because then I can tell that he is being honest. Balancing my need to thwart anxiety and not wanting to rely solely on H for that support is difficult.
Although he isn't completely transparent, H has been wonderfully perfect. Almost to the point of being textbook perfect, which is worrisome. His comment about snooping was to tell me to do anything that will ease my mind. It was very helpful but being separated, H still has a lot of freedom to be dishonest and while stringing me along.
Thanks for reading my sitch and offering your comments!
