WAW staying, I'm leaving to give her space..

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Amy,
What you are saying about how my wife should have alleviated the stresses that led me to drinking is EXACTLY the OPPOSITE of what she has been doing. I agree 100% and I'm not passing the blame, it's just a fact that she won't come to terms with. I honestly don't believe that the drinking was the CAUSE, it was a SYMPTOM of all the things that were wrong in my life and it CAUSED MORE problems. I believe that it's an easy excuse for W and that it's an easy thing to blame all her unhappiness on. That's my 2 cents and it's NOT denial.


Well,

Doing some more digging (call it snooping if you want) because I HAD to know. I found the person's name that my W called when she said she was going over to 'friends' place. It's a guy. I got his name, his address and his age (as well as his phone number). Started looking up how to find out his employer because I was wondering about whether this was W's friend's boyfriend like she had mentioned in conversation (I believe he was supposed to be a firefighter). Well, I was looking at W's work schedule on counter and guess what I found? THE GUY'S NAME ON IT!! He's an RN, too. Same age as W (friend is 15 years younger) and works with my W! It's not paranoid, insecure delusions. I pretty much have it nailed! She's hiding an A! So now what do I do? I'm pretty much 100% sure now.