Plank removed from eye, too late for WAW? 8

[Heimlich]

I was kinda shocked that you said "I care about you" in your closing with W. do you say this kind of stuff often?

Not as often as I used to, but still too often. Plus, it was more bang/bang in our conversation, "i don't care about me, but about the girls" Me: "well, I care about you." As you may recall, I don't always think before I speak.

Her moods, honestly, no longer affect me. After all, hell, we don't live together. If she's upset or in a bad mood, well, I just don't really sweat it. I was just aggravated/PO'ed because she's lecturing me on parental responsibility/availability while pushing through a D. C'mon.

S.T., I was happily married (I thought) for 16 years -- and I was fully aware of the faults in my W I've mentioned recently. I loved her for her and accepted those faults as part of who she was, as I thought she accepted my faults as part of who I am. Ain't none of us perfect

And just because the WAS isn't the best person to be with in the present, it might totally not be the person they could end up being in the end.

All in all, my W is a person I could be very happy with as she is now. She is a good person and someone that I genuinely like. That's what's hard for me. She's not an alien. She's not a nutjob. She's not experiencing a mid-life crisis. She's a good woman who happens to not want me, a good man.

Regarding trust, it's more a matter of emotional honesty. Would she hide her feelings? Would she be open with me about how she's feeling? I've been burnt twice on this by her. I think I have legitimate reason for concern. I decided months ago that I'm going to do my best not to let this hinder me in any future R, with W or with someone else.

Yeah, I love my mom. She's good people.

Chicory is a good 13ish pounds. Don't have a scale, so can't weigh him. He's a big boy, not fat. And he's very cool. W wanted to know about him when I picked up the girls. Jokes/laughter about the new kitty. Anyone that has a cat and plays with the laser pointer knows how much fun that is. Some cats run, jump, turn circles, etc. Chicory does the army crawl across the floor -- it's freakin' hilarious.

BD