H sounds like a bit of a complainer. I don't think he knows how good he had it.
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Getting some *slightly* longing looks, too. Looking me in the eye, or trying to.
This sounds good. We shouldn't get our expectations up, it makes the ride too bumpy, but we also shouldn't overlook small signs of progress. That's how we know what's working, and what to keep doing.
It sounds as though he is missing "home." He should. Keep making your house a home, for you, and D.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
DB C suggested that I should respond to H when H s positive and I can be nice. Tonight he was.
H ate some chicken here tonight. Looking me in the eye, being kind of friendly. Hanging around w/D2 longer.
H is routing phone calls here. I think it is because his phone is dead or dying--what he told his mom, I heard.
H also wants to care for D2 here while he is on break from contract over the holidays. I said yes (because in some ways it is easier for me), but I think:
-H wants an easy place to do laundry. -H wants to save some money from daycare. -May be angling for better custody angle.
So I am thinking maybe not....
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
but he has lost his attractiveness to me in many ways.
And do you wonder if you will ever be attracted to him again? And I mean from a personality point of view.... I notice other couples more and more, and how the H's treat their wives. My H wasn't mean, but he did ignore me.
Do you really think that he wants custody? I'm not sure that they want to give up their freedom?
Can I inject some bad humor here? I think you need to get him a Christmas present from D2.....A bunch of toilet paper and paper towels. I still don't get this.....
You sound like you are doing pretty good. Remember...zero expectations!
Glad someone else is thinking about this. I am still struggling with this one. I think his affair has caused me to question my respect for him. Do you think that can come back?
I really respected my H's honesty and responsibility in our M and told him a lot. His honesty was such a strong part of him, that all this really took me by surprise. In fact everyone thought of him as mister honest, true blue. Now I don't know what to think.
I had dinner with my H last night. I looked at him and wondered what I had found so attractive. That thought scared me. He is a handsome man, but his current personality is so repulsive.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
