Plank removed from eye, too late for WAW? 8

[S.T. _I Made It!]

Hi Heim. just caught a page or two of your thread. I was kinda shocked that you said "I care about you" in your closing with W. do you say this kind of stuff often? That wasn't exactly the time to say that IMHO.

I agree you don't really need to put other women in her face. Just being unavailable and your PMA around her will show her you've got stuff going on for yourself.

my H and I reconciled, but before that he definitely had his times to be rude for no reason. I just tried my best to not let it affect me. I had no idea what was going on in his head. could have been him having probs with his PA, or the guilt was getting him, or maybe he was just so frustrated about not knowing what in the heck he wanted and felt so stuck in his life that he was taking it out on me cause I was the easiest one he could do it to. who knows.

I know you mentioned about her annoying trait of freaking out if things don't go right. I think that's me too. Is she a control freak? or maybe even a perfectionist? well, I know I've changed on those habits, or traits of mine. they're still there, but definitely smashed down a bit. Now with my H, he had his own traits, but after really changing myself, I noticed that some of his were changing as well. So I think everyone can change, just like Michelle helps us to understand how. And just because the WAS isn't the best person to be with in the present, it might totally not be the person they could end up being in the end.

I think you also mentioned about being able to trust her again, and all that. If your ever planning to be with anyone, what does that really matter? There is no perfect person, and we are all sinners and therefore we must love an imperfect person and so do they. ANYONE that we end up with could do the same exact thing to us and we might never know it's coming, just like so many of us didn't know here.

Glad to hear your W had an open convo with your mom, and how wonderful your mom was to her. She must be a great mother.

So how fat is your cat? did you say 14lbs!!! wow!