I admire your strength along with everyone else. I am mystified that your H says some of the things he says, particularly that you would not welcome him back to the marriage. I think everyone else is right. In the conversations, he hears what he thinks you say. I know that I could go back to your old threads and find transcripts of conversations where you tell him you would welcome him back if he gives up OW. But he hasn't heard that. I think maybe you should put your thoughts clearly in writing so he can't say they were never communicated.
