DaveJ, W is a stubborn as the day is long. As long as I can remember, she has never apologized for anything. She is spoiled brat, and now she has her mommy and daddy supporting her 100%. She works with mostly divorced women, and is constantly hanging out with one that has been married twice and must not be happy in the second M, b/c she is with my W most of the time. Tonite she mentions that she wont be home for dinner the rest of the week, as she is going to watch nephew play bball tuesday nite and my S plays college ball wed nite, and then she is going to St Michaels MD thurs and friday with her co-worker to hang out and shop for christmas. Yeah right. The OM lives not far from there, and when she went away a few times over the summer, she went to the same area and it was always thurs into friday. When I found an email she sent OM in april, it had directions to a hotel, plus they were going to meet thursday and friday. She must really think that she is in the drivers seat and is in control of the whole sitch. I dont have to do anything as far as the D for another 22 months, but i dont know how long i can hang in. If she will go to Retrouvaille, maybe things will change. If not, I will have to decide if the M is worth the hassle, and if I can last that long. My L says that I am in the drivers seat as far as D goes, b/c the judges in my county look down on adulterous spouses who file. She makes alot more money than i do, so there is a real good chance of me getting much more than she does. Right now it would be a 65-35 split. That means that I can get the house and that would be a major coup if that happens. Have to keep positive and not let what she does affect me. If she did move out, she would probably do these things anyway. She is trying to be independent and show me that she can do things. Big deal! I can cook, clean, sew, fix things, and do a hell of a lot more than my W. If the D goes through, she will find out what it is like in the real world.
