He doesn't see me as fantastic. He sees me as the source of his problems, the reason we might be divorcing, the reason he'll see his kids less. I have no doubt about this. Its always been 100% my fault and will continue to be this way.
Lwb, I am merely reflecting on the responses you said he gave. Let's look at them:
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You are done with me? What happened to you waiting until I was ready to make a choice?
I hurt you. I will be hurting the girls.
I don't deserve to be happy, don't say that to me. Its not true. I should be feeling all of this hurt.
I miss us. I miss our marriage, how it was before it got bad. I miss being your friend.
Yes, your H may be angry and upset with you, but he still recognizes he's facing the loss of a good and wonderful wife and mother of his children -- perhaps that explains his anger? You're rocking his world in a whole new way, kicking him out of his comfort zone for having been so stupid. Consciously or subconsciously, he sees that. He's addicted to cake-eating, but he doesn't want to end up with nothing or no one. And he knows, deep down, that he has it so much better with you.
I would bet he's feeling that he can longer measure up to someone like you -- someone who is so faithful, moral, with a good, warm heart and great strength of character. The jig is up and he's about to lose it all.
