Oh I would LOSE it over your poor D5!!! Lose it!!!! Heck, I ripped H a new one when I found out OW had taken my D3 to the bathroom with her kids at the pool! H was scared of me.
You are right though, what CAN you do? I would just see what your lawyer has to say, and of course, document this. Your wife did take a shot in the arm. There is no denying that in the long run, her actions got D5 sick. No denying that.
You call me strong, jar. I learn it from you, I think.