I think that I'm wasting my time on here. There is little point in coming to the newcomers area. And it's my fault....I forget that I was exactly like that...analyzing, reanalyzing, asking on the board, "do you think that is a positive sign"? I've been there and done that and by now should understand that it's part of the process. Sorry to those that took offense.
Sir, Pud, Maco, whoever else I've offended by pointing out the negative (actually I was trying to point out that this "positive" was just an interpretation, often of a very insignificant event). I've done all that and should allow you to learn that yourself. My wife came over all the time. We went to dinner, movies, hugged, she'd say, "why are we such good friends now", we made out a couple times. These are GIANT signs. Sure, positives. Know where I ended up? divorced. My wife came on this site and saw all these actions of hers I was interpreting (ie my W called today with a really weak excuse; do you think it means something) and pushed even harder for a divorce. She wasn't even aware I was doing all this interpreting of each little action.
Anyway, I'm probably a little more jaded than I should be (and that's not because I've failed...which I haven't)...it's probably because I've seen so many people come and go from this site. I've seen so many people thinking that everything was going swimmingly only to be crushed when they find out that their spouse is seeing someone else. And from personal experience, I find that some of that stuff didn't serve me well. Whatever works for you though is fine. That's mainly what it's about...do what works.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
