I went back and looked at one of your earlier posts. YOU keep saying it's menopause or hormonal, and she has TOLD you it is not. You said she said: a) we've changed, and b) it's all my fault.
That is a synopsis of her answer.... but in reality, I'm sure it was a longer, more detailed answer? And more than likely, that conversation contains the answer you are seeking (part of which could be that you don't listen to her, and you aren't owning your part of the problem).
Can you expand on her two answers with more specifics.
If it wasn't any longer an answer than that... then that is where I'd start with her... to get her to really flush out those two comments.
