I just thought I would let you know that I am reading your sit/posts and am still here with you.
You were a lot nicer to your W(ex?) on the phone that I would have been, given the same situation. I would have told her I was out meeting women and did not have the time to listen to and/or deal with her. Perhaps playing hard to get might work in your favor. It could help you if W thinks you are a hot commodity, have options open to you, and not just available to her if she wants you. Taking that power out of her hands could be an advantage.
I don't know why she is snippy and mean to you. You are a good guy and don't deserve it. Maybe she is mad about the butt-grabbing thing, who knows? Just remember: you don't have to take any garbage from anyone, you are empowered to hang-up, not listen, or remove yourself from the offending party.
Best, --Chris
Me: 40 She: 31 S: 5 D: 3 Married: 8 years (05 DEC 99) Blow-up: 02 JUN 07 Piecing (More like Ostriching): 22 FEB 08