I"m in agony here...

[bombardier50]

Corri and all, I hear what you're saying, but here's another little tidbit.

If you remember from one of my earliest posts, when I pulled myself out of my "funk" of depression and withdrawal, she responded. In fact, a few days after my "amazing recovery", we made love. That was about a month ago.

Again, if you remember, she told me it was really just a "sympathy f___k". I don't think that's really true. Clearly, she wasn't really into it as we were doing it. I believe that in her hormonally depressed state, she just couldn't feel much of anything. It was totally zipless for her. No fireworks. No brass band. Just a lot of pointless humping. And we haven't made love since because she probably thinks that it will just be another unsatisfying experience. And I think that might really be depressing, distressing, and disturbing to her. She might think that her body is just broken.

Here's another observation: she used to masturbate frequently. She was very open about it and I would often catch her in the act and "help her along." This would happen once or twice a month. That has stopped. Or, for some strange reason, she has become incredibly discrete about it.

To me, these little tidbits point to something hormonal. Saffie: as a menopause survivor, am I making sense?

Certainly, it's possible she's having an affair. Anything's possible. Based on my conversations with my DB coach, and with everyone on this board, my hypothesis is that she's entered menopause and is having a hard time dealing with it. I'm just not sure how to best test my hypothesis...