You know what they say about tightly wound people...
Annnnnnnnyhoo, I could never 'get' people like that, nor do I try to anymore. I do feel for people like that, that they have to get so bothered by everything. I would hate feeling that all the time. But that's me. Since I'm (obviously) so much more free than that.
I was sympathizing that you had to deal with that and that it still causes you aggravation. I kind of feel like you could prepare yourself for when she gets like that and not let the aggravation show...(I know I am going to get flak for this). Oh well, confrontation has never bothered me.
And btw, I can't really ever shut up...I don't give two cents, it's like buy one get one free.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.