Thanks Yoyo - Good advice. I will try not to let my guard down. That's what he's probably trying to make me do by being all lovey dovey nice. At first I thought that this weekend felt "different" but since finding out about the attorney, I don't believe any of it..
Why does it have to get ugly? I will only make it ugly if he gets that way first and I'm sure it will since he's getting coaching from the ow ho.
LO, Did he tell you that he saw the attorney? First of all just because he saw an attorney doesn't mean it is the end. Things change. I'm just saying be careful to protect yourself financially, make sure you have the necesary records. I wouldn't retain a lawyer until he files. You know these WAS they change like the wind.
Just take a deep breath, I know how nerve-wracking this is. Just keep on working on yourself and don't let him get to you. I know easier said than done, but just do your best.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Yoyo - I did decide that I am going to be in reactionary mode and wait it out. I do, however, agree with you that making copies of everything is a good idea.
H wants to have R talk later tonight. Not sure why but I have a stomach-ache about it. But, how can it get any worse??
LO, hugs to you. It must be hard to find out that he sees an attorney. That may not mean much, though, OR if may mean a lot. Either way, he is doing the talk in this sense. Just prepare yourself and know what your options are. You two are still civil to each other, so you can just work out what you is fair or what your needs are and you can discuss this with your H, I think? when he brings it up. Personally I believe lawyers makes things worse if the couple can still talk to each other and work out the D details. But I am not here to give legal advice. Just take care, things can change any minute. DETACH!!!!
Thinking about you, especially after reading that your H wanted to talk tonight.
Let's see in the past week, you mentioned contacting your attorney, but he said no, to wait. Then he get's all affectionate with you and wants your company, then you find out he's talked to an attorney. I'm trying to make sense of it but can't. Perhaps Yoyo is right, he's being all nice so you don't suspect what he is up to. Or he just wanted the air between you to be smooth for whatever he wanted to talk to you about tonight.
Joie - thanks for checking in .. Not much to update. As expected, warm H turned cold. Same conversations - different day. He is unwilling to see an mc and work on the M "right now" - whatever that means. Says he has individual stuff to work on still. Interesting statement since a few months ago he said he didn't need to see his ic any longer.
So... What does the L-LRT look like when you are living in the same house?? No calls, e-mails, etc.. No spending time together.. No doing nice things for him.. No sex.. Separate bedrooms.. Am I missing anything??
