Basically now my H has done many 180s, including cutting it off completely with OW, by changing his work cell #, and removing the emails she knows, committed himself to C (today is his first session), has given me flowers and a mushy second chance card, has grabbed my hand many times out of the blue and said "I'm so sorry for what I put us through", "I want us to be on the same page now", "I really missed you".
We told our S Saturday morn as we were all lying in bed that we were not going to D. He started to cry gently, happy tears he said, and told us we had made a good decision because he wants his family to be together.
My H has also seen the positive changes in me, no snippyness, being more confident, laughing, losing weight and lookin' good and being a more calm, centered person.
I told him I never felt better in years, I feel like I am back. I also discovered that I don't NEED him in my life, but that I WANT him in my life.
Now the scary steps of not falling into an old pattern because things are going so well. But at least now I feel like he and I are beginning again on the same page.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
and being a more calm, centered person.