1 step forward 2 steps back. You are going to have days like that. You are only human, if you were perfect, you wouldn't be here to begin with.

If she's hiding things and putting guys names under girls names on her cell phone, then yes, there is probably something going on. A couple things people will tell you over and over again... 1) the EA/PA is a symptom of the problems in the R, not the cause of the problems. Get to the root of it and don't focus on the affair.
2) Don't snoop. It will drive you crazy and it will push her further away. If she's given up on your M for now, then she's just going to do what she wants anyways.

At this point, you are planning to move out, you have everything ready, the kids are excited about having sleepovers with daddy and it will be more convenient workwise. I'd just go with it. Also, your emotions are pretty up and down right now (totally normal) if you want to DB, having some time to focus yourself before talking to her, couldn't hurt anything.

What happened to the guy that was going to start pumping iron and flirting with hotties? ;\) Not saying you have to have that kind of PMA all the time, it just won't happen, but make those your goals, getting fit, working hard, spending time with your kids, making friends and DBing. Make a list of personal goals and focus on those.

She can and will justify any mood/attitude/actions she has. She is living in a world where she is number one. Her happiness is her main focus. Give her space and work on you. Hopefully, your changes will be noticed and show her that you can be the man she needs to be happy with.

One other thing. I wouldn't point out the changes you are making. Let her see them. If you point it out, she'll think you are doing it for her and it may just be a temp fix. Do it for you and let her see that for herself.

take care... \:\) ann

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