WAW says "I'm filing for D", but no papers

[Just_Me]

SirPrizeMe,

Sorry, I haven't read your whole thread. But I had to reply to this post of yours. I know a person should look for positives, but I think you are overanalyzing alot and not at all detached. Your spouse is not your enemy, and therefore, if you are treated in a friendly or pseudofriendly manner, it is not inconsistent with a desire for divorce. Let me give a few examples....

She could hear the noise in the background and asked where I was. So that's good, she thinking about me.

If you were talking to your sister or a friend and you heard odd noise in the background, would you ask where he/she was? It doesn't mean that she was thinking about you.

Obviously she wanted to come in for some reason. Maybe she wanted to see if anyone was there with me. Regardless, she is interested.

She is interested? Maybe. But it's quite a bit of analyzing.

I took this as an indication that she might be tiring of the solo parent thing. Maybe I'm reading too much into it.

You probably are reading too much into it.

Sunday morning she called for what seemed a made-up reason.

Speculation.

I thought it notable that she wanted to drop them off as well as pick them up. The only thing I can figure is she wants the interaction. She is going out of her way to make sure she sees me...

Or she doesn't want you coming by if OM is over. Who knows.

Now that I tried to shoot holes in all of that, I would like to say that it is a positive that you both can talk. It's good that she's comfortable enough to come in the house. It's wonderful that you are coparenting maturely. And maybe she is interested. I think things are in a good place. But my point is that I think you are still too wrapped up in her. You notice every little thing and you analyze every thing. While your doing all of this, when do you have time to think at least somewhat about yourself? I mean living your life without always considering what ramifications your actions have on your wife. I think things seem hopeful, and I do think you should make the most of your interactions, and yes, enjoy the interactions. But I think your situation calls for just a smidge of detachment, that's all. You know...just a little more living for yourself (and your child).