Scottymack, we went to the Retro 11/16/07. As far as working out, I guess I probably won't be able to tell you for a long while. Retro does different things for different people. For some people it's instant awakening, and some others, not as much. But overall it's very positive. I know that my W is no longer determined that we are done. I know she's saying she no longer knows, which is a positive I think. I believe she's in the wait and see mode and see how things develope between us. She is interested in improving our communication and see where that leads. She has also has said that her head is telling her to give it another try, but her heart is just not in it (yet I feel). I think it will take some time for her to let go all of her anger/resentment. She tends to be stubborn and all. However I do notice that she has let go some and not as angry as before. So I would have faith and give it a try. You got nothing to lose really.
BTW, don't make Retro a condition for her to stay in the house. If you do that then she will just go through the motion and get nothing out of it. Make it about improving things between you two. Communication, interaction, stop fighting, for the kids, etc.
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
