I"m in agony here...

[bombardier50]

All,
I think you would have to see the pictures to kind of understand why sending them to friends wasn't really a big deal. Although she is obviously nude in the pics, nowhere do you see a nipple, genitalia, etc. In fact, she selected three pics to send out that were the tamest of the group. I've seen pictures of women fully clothed that were a lot racier than what I took. So, I don't know. I think Saffie's original notion was right...she has body image issues.

The more I talk to you guys, and to my DB coach, and the more I think about this, I think my whole situation goes something like this:

Wife slides into menopause, sex drive evaporates.
Husband eventually says "What the heck?"
Wife refuses to admit she may be menopausal, places blame elsewhere (job, money, stress, etc.).
Husband, after repeated rejections,starts to withdraw emotionally.
Wife now has something to blame besides menopause! Her husband!
Husband gets a clue (DB coach), pulls out of his funk, and tries to reconnect emotionally.
Wife loses scapegoat...now what?

And I'm hoping that the "now what" will be her admitting that she is going through a normal part of her life and she needs to deal with it in a healthy way. And I'm hoping that by getting out of her way, I'll help her arrive at that conclusion.

To be honest Saffie, I don't know if she's talking to other women about this or not. As we all know, if she talks to the wrong person, it can make the problem worse.

What do you guys think?