Each Day is New...

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She pretty much cut herself off from me for a month. I didn't try to make first contact at all and she would typically call me once a week (Sunday night) for 10 minutes. In hindsight, I maybe should have called her once or twice just for a friendly hello. I say this because I had to have couple conversations with her to get her to believe that I still cared about her once she started talking to me regularly again.

I think that time was biggest factor in helping get to this point. But I also used the time as constructively as I could. I got myself to a pretty good place in that month. Getting a Positive Life and creating a Positive Attitude towards your life can go a very long ways towards getting you through this. You have to learn to be happy with yourself. A lot of this sounds cliche until you actually start living it. You will feel better about yourself and your spouse will see it too. I often wondered how my wife was going to see all of the ways that my life had changed if I only talked to her once a week. Somehow she did though.

If you read through my threads you might be able to get a better idea of what I've been through and what I've been doing. It's hard to sum it all up in a single post. I really do think that the principles set forth in DR work. Stick to them and you'll come out the other side of this ok no matter the outcome.