Can this work?

[Tina M]

I'm new at this forum stuff so I hope this lands in the Separated now what section. Had posted it elsewhere previously.

My H said that he's been on the fence for the past six weeks about asking for a divorce. He loves me, but is not in love with me. Says I'm attractive, but he's not attracted to me. Does not want to "work" on the marriage, but rather see if a spark can be rekindled to determine if wants to go onto the next stage of "working on the marriage". This is a second marriage for both, been together 10 years. We have no children. We've gone through some ups and downs, in particilar his going to chat sites, which he says is a symptom of our marriage. I'd like to give it a go, but am not sure how to go along with the following proposal he laid out... It's difficult because we're still under the same roof. And to top it off, he's been unemploymed for the past three months and isn't looking. Says he want's his privancy and space... says he needs more mystery .... I'm going for counselling as well have signed up for the on phone counselling with Divorce Busing.... Would welcome any feedback from anyone having faced or is facing a similar siutation.

Tina

Following is his proposal:

Sleep in separate rooms unless explicitly invited
Handle laundry & meals separately unless invited
Household chores to be divided up fairly (non-working partner to do more)
Financial arrangements (separation of groceries / car / gas payments) as existing
No dating / chatting with others (eg internet)
Allow each other personal privacy (bathroom, dressing, etc)
Maintain civil discourse (no swearing, raising of voice, or angry tones)
Time together to be requested, not assumed
Weekly meeting for household/operational issues
Weekly (or more frequent) going out date night with alternating initiator
Shared activities (television, rented movies, games) to alternate as well
United front presented to friends / family
Monthly meeting to review relationship / Update rekindling agreement