Glad you are analyzing how you could have done better. There is always a time when you look back and say you could have done at least one thing differently.
While I'm glad you are looking at your own behaviors and how to do better, I think you are doing WAY too much wife analyzing. The hair thing could be absolutely nothing. It just isn't anything to hang your hat on. Okay, it wasn't a negative. But don't make it into a bigger positive than it is. That being said, I will point out that you complimented her on her hair before she did that. Right? Have you considered that your wife needs words of affirmation? Which basically is you noticing when she does something right or complimenting her on accomplishments or when she looks good. Think about the relationship before it got bad. Did she respond favorably to praise? If so, you should try to drop subtle (VERY VERY SUBTLE) compliments...(ie you were always the good one at x,y, or z. That skirt looks good on you.) Just a thought. Of course, that only works if you still talk. You can't call to compliment or give words of affirmation...it has to occur naturally. Anything obvious is just pursuit.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
