In a word, NO! Do not try to make her do anything, including reading DB.
You absolutely MUST turn your focus to yourself right now. YOU read the book, then re-read it, and when you're done, read it again!
Spend some time reading on the board. I would suggest you go start a new thread in "newcomers". You'll get more responses and feedback. Start asking specific questions about the content of the book, and start doing activities, (goals, etc.), utilizing the tools, and start analyzing what is working and what is not working.
Above all else, you must STOP pursuing her. Let her alone and start focusing on yourself and your children. Right now all you are doing by pursuing her is coming off as whiney and needy. I don't mean to sound harsh, but we've all been there. The book is not going to do you any good if you don't start putting it into practice. This is not a read for an FYI kind of book. You MUST start practicing what it preaches if you want to see any kind of results at all.
If you can't sleep, get some OTC sleep aids. You cannot focus the way you need to if you're not sleeping. You need to get some sleep.
