Awesome Amy. Can I just ask. Did you and your H ever get to the getting D stage? I know you talked about it. I'm asking b/c of my sitch. H has started the ball rolling and at the moment is asking me to agree to D after 2yrs separation. Currently I'm not agreeing but he is telling me that if I don't he will D me on grounds of MY unreasonable behaviour. Don't want to give in to bullying BUT it's gonna cost me mega bucks to defend it when at the end of the day he will get a D one way or another if he really wants it (can get D after 5yrs sep w/o consent in UK). So whilst I want to be patient it's very clear that H doesn't want me to be! Any advice would be brilliant. Thanks (my thread is called 'Voyaging into the unknown' on MLC)
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
It's very obviously a one-person tractor (do they even make a two-seater? I'm guessing no...) so I just stood there and said there was nowhere for me to sit. He told me to sit on his lap and steer. So I did. We spent the next 15 minutes zipping around the yard and field beside the house - we did not actually need the wood, it turned out.
I'm sending this off to Jeff Foxworthy....I can hear him now! Have you ever heard of a red-neck lap dance?
All I know is...if my W is sitting in my lap...somebody is gonna be a tad bit excited!
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today
WOW! I am so proud of you. Nothing like a midnight ride on a tractor to get the juices flowing. That's good stuff. Building the foundation, friendship, excitment, and fun the cornerstone. You don't need expensive therapy, boobies, or a heavy hand, just a good ole ride on a tractor. I love it! And I love the way you read the sitch, and chose to stay at home. That took wisdom, strength and courage.
What a difference two years can make. It only took four for my M, and after two years of being reunited, we are still growing, still healing, still getting closer and closer. It's awesome, but it takes a very long time for hearts to heal and to change.
I pray more people would just wait a little longer, and take a few more tractor rides.
Love,
COG
My Story http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...&Number=660444&page=2#Post660444
It's very obviously a one-person tractor (do they even make a two-seater? I'm guessing no...) so I just stood there and said there was nowhere for me to sit. He told me to sit on his lap and steer. So I did. We spent the next 15 minutes zipping around the yard and field beside the house - we did not actually need the wood, it turned out.
I'm sending this off to Jeff Foxworthy....I can hear him now! Have you ever heard of a red-neck lap dance?
All I know is...if my W is sitting in my lap...somebody is gonna be a tad bit excited!
WOW! I am so proud of you. Nothing like a midnight ride on a tractor to get the juices flowing. That's good stuff. Building the foundation, friendship, excitment, and fun the cornerstone. You don't need expensive therapy, boobies, or a heavy hand, just a good ole ride on a tractor. I love it! And I love the way you read the sitch, and chose to stay at home. That took wisdom, strength and courage.
What a difference two years can make. It only took four for my M, and after two years of being reunited, we are still growing, still healing, still getting closer and closer. It's awesome, but it takes a very long time for hearts to heal and to change.
I pray more people would just wait a little longer, and take a few more tractor rides.
Love,
COG
Thanks, COG. We had a blast and when he picked S15 up from a ROTC event yesterday (I had D12 at my niece's b-day party) he told S15 about our tractor ride. Now both kids have been freaked out!
