My posts are in THE DIVORCE REMEDY section and I feel I am sinking fast! I Need suport and don't want to do anything more stupid to hurt my relationship! Can't eat and sleep again! I hate this nightmare. Why did it take this to WAKE ME UP! Why was I so stupid!! She says I am being TO Much and its to late!!
Last edited by mrarow; 12/03/0704:15 AM.
Married 13 years Me: 43 W: 39 D-19 D-18 D-13 S-25
Wake me up Bomb: July 1 2007
Wife Ring off: Jan 8 2008
-Time Is my Friend? -Put your Trust in God! -Pray lots! <------<<<
All you can do is GAL and work on you. Let her have space and let her go. Gosh man, go to the gym, make plans with your guy friends. Start doing things for YOU.
Don't give her books, don't try to convince her of anything. She will only do the opposite. The more you try to control this situation, the more she will push you away.
Keep in mind... weakness, neediness and depression are not attractive.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
1) Don't give her any books, don't pursue her, and act indifferent toward the marriage situation. This will be difficult. This suggestion is closely related to the next one:
2) Begin to re-think the divorcebusting process. I posted a detailed and lengthy "DB101" on another thread. It will do you good to read it: Principles of Divorcebusting and Detachment
3) In private, visit and read stuff on this board. Do not tell your wife you are doing so. Keep it a secret. But come back, and read what others are posting regarding their experiences. You will learn a lot by lurking, learn more by posting with requests for suggestions, and learn a ton by posting in order to help others.
Success is nearby. And remember that success may not necessarily include the outcome that you want today. But you will be successful. You will be happy, confident, attractive, and lovable. And you need to be all of these today.
OK, you have your homework assignment!! Get to work!!
