I don't really have any specific thoughts, except the validating stuff mentioned above. Never really got to discuss whether we would make an attempt at the M, as W went straight to "I have no desire to try" mode and refused counseling, hasn't backed off from that.
I just want to wish you good luck on the talk though...
Me: 43 W: 41 Together 2009, Married 2011 Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5 Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021