as for women who wished or told their man to leave her alone and go have an affair or find a f**k buddy.... well dont say things you dont mean unless you have a guy who can read your mind. Then again, maybe you did mean what you said. He did, and you got your desire back. Personally Ive spent a lot of effort getting out of the habit of telling OP thats not what they mean. I still slip up a lot. its just easier then asking. LOL.
Well, I can tell you, I didn't mean what I said. I said the statement once, in a rare argument about the sex ( well, the lack of), since my H is a conflict avoider. I am usually the pursuer, but on this particular area, obviously I was a confict avoider as well. Not good. I wanted the issue to go away at the moment, so I threw out some stupid stuff. The A didn't happen until a few years later, but those words stayed with him, and maybe he wanted them to. He wasn't looking to figure me out and help...he wanted what he wanted. The seeds of an affair were most likely starting to develop, and he was testing me too. You have to understnad, BF, that the testing goes in both directions; it happens with both men and women...for a recent exapmle here on the board, look at Balto's desire to see some jealousy in his W.
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still It smacks of something.... In fact its been very eye opening doing exactly what women tell me to do. Who knew, they do know what they need.
Well, women still don't know what they need...even our bright star Corri is confused...but it's good you are letting go. Notice how I said I wished my H did understand me more and help me, but that's really not accurate. If he had done that, it would have seemed too paternal for me. I kind I wish he figured it out and kept steady to himself, til I found a way to get to a better mind state. Make sense?
