DNQ, I can understand the pull towards another person. I feel it myself, towards someone I work with.

But when I wrote "Rebound" in one of your threads, I wasn't trying to be mean--the point was that this type of relationship strikes me as almost invariably doomed, you know?

Crushee for me is handsome, dedicated to family, and insightful. Not to mention good at job, kind, all kinds of good things.

But as I got to know Crushee, it would be easy to predict areas where there would be major friction. Not to mention that we work together and I don't know if my interest is returned (suspect not).

Bottom line is that we are terribly vulnerable now, you know?


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D