My WAH-MLCer had left, started seeing another friend/OW after I confronted him about his out of state A (and not handling it very well - in hind sight), filed for D, with out telling me and was gone.
Now, the D was dropped and he is back home, even though he still has a lot of his crap at his parent's family apt. His drinking has been curbed a lot, due to what the dr. told him.
WAH-MLCer is still in MLC, but it has been a long tough year for child and I, but I see small steps of progress since last August. I want everything to be right and well, but keep forgetting that we can not force this upon them. They the MLCers have to work it out themselves.
Even if we did D, I would not have given up fighting for the family that I believe in. My inner self keeps telling me to this day that it is the right thing to do.
You have the power to make the decision and choice for you and no one else. BUT never believe it is EVER too late. IF the MLCer doesn't make it through their MLC, you will say you fought the good fight, it was never too late, but you chose not to let the MLCer spiral you into their demise.
Sending you your atta boys and PMA for the day.
MariS
"Going for the Gold & not the Booby prize"
Become the change you want to see.....
Me - 37 WAH - 35 child - 2yrs Separated - August '06 Married - 10yrs, Together 18 Not feeling WAH's internal struggle - Feb '08
