It must feel great sleeping next to someone who you believe is planning to bomb you. (not.) I hate to see you doing this.
BTW, great job not going on that meet-up. But I think you are capable of going out on your own, no? Indeed, I think you had a great time in Sonoma doing just that.
If the gift thing is weird, why don't you agree with H: "You're right, I really shouldn't get you anything, let's skip gifts this year."
