Hi Sara, it has been awhile since i've posted and have been working hard to make things at home peaceful.
Approached W about retro last weekend, as we have one close to our area the weekend of Jan 19. I just printed the opening page to the retro site and gave it to my W to read. It just states about the 4 stages of marriage.
W looked at me and said, "Isn't it too late for that"? I told her that I didnt think so. I also told her that we need to communicate better and this will help. I told her to read and think about it, and she can tell me in a week or so her response.
Well she hasnt thrown away the info, and I dont know if she has really read it, but I guess I have to look at the positive, in that she didnt say no.
W is away today at a bridal shower, and I will need her answer soon so I can schedule the weekend.
If she doesnt agree to the weekend, I am going to have to go to plan B, which is to tell her she needs to decide what it is she wants, and when is she going to move out. It is so hard to be in the same house with her, even when we are in seperate rooms.
W has been much more talkative over the last few weeks, and has actually changed a little in that she is telling me where she is going and actually called home friday nite to tell me she wanted to go to a new restaurant and was leaving work at that time.
She has been very secretive over the last few months, and is trying very hard to be independent.
The holidays are going to be hard, as we will I am sure go our seperate ways to each others families.
S18 came home from college on thanksgiving and told me that her side of the family, all except the IL's, know that what the W is telling everybody is a lie. He also said not to worry about what she is saying, and not to stoop to her level. S wants to study psychology, and I think now that he is ticked off at his mom to the point that he was home for over a week, and only slept here maybe 2 nights.
Have to hope that the W will go to retro, to at least work on the communication part. I have to keep praying that this will all work out. Thank you for letting my steal a little of your thread. Thanks to all of you for your honesty in telling your experiences with retro. Take care.