woog, thank you, i have calmed since this happened. i wish i had more control over my anger and frustration.i just seemed to reach my limit today. i think it all goes back to when she left town instead of staying over until the next day to be at the birth of our granddaughter.i have no doubt wne she gets home tonight she will tell me will be moving out. on a brighter note daughter and i put up the christmas tree and all the decorations tonight. they look great. but sadly this could be the last time we have christmas in our home. hard to believe . you are right about living in their world. i don't care how much i try and convince her about what she is doing it just falls on deaf ears. she is so unplugged from reality. she can actually justify wanting to go out of town.take a breath, a deep breath craig. i hope and pray i can try to db in this situation. i hope i did cross the line. only time will tell. thanks woog.
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The trick is to keep breathing. The only reason I'm not losing it like you is that I am avoiding the W. Almost completely detaching from her. It's a surreal experience, but its the only way I can survive. I'm not sure its better. It seems to hurt less, but I'm pretty damn lonely.
Very damn lonely. We're expecting 10-14" of snow today so I got up at 7 on my day off to bring wifes vehicle to work (33 miles away) to figure out why her 4WD wasn't working. After two hours I determined it was the transfer case controller, nothing in the state for used ones, $355 our cost from the dealer (490 list) and in stock. I called, asked her if she wanted it fixed, offered to drive another 35 miles to dealer in the snowstorm to get it, she was pretty quiet, then started up on when it should have been fixed, how long it had been broken, etc, could just tell that she thought this was something we should split cost on. She started getting an attitude, I told her I didn't know why she was pissed but I wasn't going to listen to it, just tell me if she wanted it fixed or not. She waited, then said No. So... I put her dash and undercarriage all back together and pulled it out. If she ever has a 4WD issue with daughter in the car I will be PISSED!!! She's got two new pair of jeans hanging up in the freaking laundry room but she can't keep her car maintained, I know it would be an $800 bill with diagnostic time, repair time and the parts anywhere else. So now I'm heading out on the way home, 1/4 mile visibility, 2-3 inches on the ground and falling fast. I'll probably stop and work out for an hour on the way, then go home and spend the afternoon with the crabby lady. Woohoo.
Me:46 Her:40 Daughter:7 She Dropped Bomb:10/7/07 She Filed Papers w/State:10/30/07 I Left Home:11/11/07 I Moved Back In:11/13/07 My Outlook: I want nothing more than a future together and will do whatever it takes. Her Outlook: Been too long coming, I'm done.
I am sorry man. I spend the morning getting snow tires put on the wife's car. Then she tells me to hurry home so she can go to the gym and run errands.
I may be sick, but I'm looking forward to more snow. My ski-doo is ready to go and so are my skis.
Pick up the new disney video and have a good afternoon with your D. That's my plan
saturday, w and i have not spoken one word to each other today. i left house early to go on a long drive, ended up at the beach. a beautiful crisp morning. meditated, just kicked back and did not think of much of anything. after yesterday, i do not care what w does anymore. i am pretty much done, at least that is the way i am feeling today. i thought she would move out today. but so far no indication, she seems pretty much detached from me. she didn't stay out late last night. not even 11.00pm.i pretended to be asleep. goal was to get up before she did and leave the house. i know , sounds pretty childish.emotionally rung out. i cannot stand the way she is. but i still love her. very strange how that can work.but that is the way i feel.
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saturday, w and i have not spoken one word to each other today. i left house early to go on a long drive, ended up at the beach. a beautiful crisp morning. meditated, just kicked back and did not think of much of anything. after yesterday, i do not care what w does anymore. i am pretty much done, at least that is the way i am feeling today. i thought she would move out today. but so far no indication, she seems pretty much detached from me. she didn't stay out late last night. not even 11.00pm.i pretended to be asleep. goal was to get up before she did and leave the house. i know , sounds pretty childish.emotionally rung out. i cannot stand the way she is. but i still love her. very strange how that can work.but that is the way i feel.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
saturday, w and i have not spoken one word to each other today. i left house early to go on a long drive, ended up at the beach. a beautiful crisp morning. meditated, just kicked back and did not think of much of anything. after yesterday, i do not care what w does anymore. i am pretty much done, at least that is the way i am feeling today. i thought she would move out today. but so far no indication, she seems pretty much detached from me. she didn't stay out late last night. not even 11.00pm.i pretended to be asleep. goal was to get up before she did and leave the house. i know , sounds pretty childish.emotionally rung out. i cannot stand the way she is. but i still love her. very strange how that can work.but that is the way i feel.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
off to church in a few minutes. the Lord gave me a sign a few days ago concerning my waw. i praised him and thanked him. now i have asked for a more specific sign. now i will await that sign. my anger has subsided from friday. after thinking back on what i said, i think i cut my w off when i should have just let it go.she felt she could talk to me about leaving town. my anger got the better of me. definite setback on progress that had been made. i need to do a better job at detaching.i do know i have a line that cannot be crossed, without me saying something. i think she learned that. i just wish i had been a little less lecturing.her thoughts are so unclear and foggy about her priorities. am i wrong to draw a line in the sand? my thinking is she needs to know i will not be a doormat any longer. what does everyone think?
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woog, since your firt post i had a connection with you and situation, because they mirroed my own. i appreciate your honesty.i will wait on the lord or hang tight. great sermon by the pastor today.how much can change in a moment, and how we deal with the change. i of course thought of my situation, and how things changed in just one sentence spoken by my wife. how much has changed in the last 9 weeks. alot of good things have taken place, along with some bad things. it all comes down how we deal with the change. you can let it crush you, or you can let it lift you up. i read your posts and see a transformation every week in you, and how you deal with your wife and the situation you find yourself in.keep fighting the good fight .
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