What to do with a fence-sitter

[LuvMyHusband]

HI Joie,
I have been trying to be what he wants to for exactly the same reason. Actually it's not that hard. I too was doing things that caused part of the problems between us and I have learned from my mistakes. I still love him and want our M. I think he does too otherwise he would have filed by now.

Yes, aren't those nice (not) little emails a joy? Before he broke it off with her he had told her we were going to Vegas together. She emailed (3)me the day after I returned telling me how he had been texting her how much he missed her and adored her while we were there. Yuck. I did respond, couldn't resist, that I seriously doubted it bc he had left his cell in our room pretty much the whole weekend. Come to find out she had been trying to call him on the last day and he wouldn't answer so then she started texting him and was verbally abusive. He finally texted her back and told her to leave him alone and that he wasn't going to be in contact with her anymore. She flamed and went after me.

So anyway, you hang in there. Your H's OW is showing her true colors too just like my H's did. He can't stand her now. I am a little confused about why he still doesn't want to come home but am willing to be patient a while longer. He asked me to leave him alone so I am. Not bc I am angry or being spiteful but bc I am trying to respect his wishes and give him space to think and breathe.