What to do with a fence-sitter

[LuvMyHusband]

Good morning,
Joie I read your thread. The name of your post caught my eye. I am wondering if I have a fence sitter too. I thought my H was coming home to stay on Friday. Thursday night he changed his mind and said he wasn't ready. He's staying with his parents in CA. He says the OW is completely out of the picture and has been for a few weeks. I hope this is true and I do tend to believe him this time. I received emails from her ranting an raving a couple of weeks ago.

When he is here everything is great. We talk, are close and intimiate. Last time (Thanksgiving weekend) he put up the Christmas lights and tree, something he knows will make the kids and I happy. He left to go back to CA on Sunday and promised us to be back on Friday for good. Not.

I was pretty upset not only for me but for our kids. He had promised them too. I went dark on Saturday morning. No contact, nothing. He told me to leave him alone on Friday night and wants me to be patient and understanding. Yeah, like I haven't tried to be throughout the last 4 months.

We both like to play games on and online game site, canasta, poker, solitaire, etc. (that's how he met the psycho ()itch). When you are a member you have a profile and a character and a friends list so that when you are on you can play with each other.

Anyway, he had blocked me so that I couldn't see him when he was on but I knew anyway. When I asked him why he said it was bc he was angry with me. Whatever.

Last night I was chatting online with a db friend (female). don't want to name names bc her H reads posts with her name in it. Anyway, I had made some changes to my profile that were flirty with him since he does check my profile. She and I were laughing over it. Not 5 minutes after I made these changes he unblocked himself so that I could see he was on. It was obvious that it was an invitation which I did not accept. I kept playing as if I didn't notice and waited for him to come to me. He didn't so I logged off and went to bed. I have pursued him before and I am determined not too. Plus he asked me to leave him alone and give him space. So I am. I think I need to let him come to me.

Anyway, sorry to hijack but wanted to know if you think I have a fence sitter too. Btw, u are amazing with your strength. I would have mopped up the floor with her if the OW came into my house. You go girl.