Ok...on a serious note, Im really anxious that W is going to Vegas or is having OM come here for the holidays. I know that I cannot control another person but I just really hurt.
DB says most affairs die within 6 months. Marriage Builders say most die within 6 months of seeing the light of day.
My issue is that I dont know if I consider this R an affair. Although, I think my W met this guy in Vegas in May when she went on vacation there. THen in August, we were back together and making love again. Perhaps she was cheating on OM with me?
Man, I really want my family back and I know that the only way to do that is to let go and hope and pray. But its so hard accepting that the person I have spent 16 years with is courting, ML and dancing with OM.
In addition, she told me she no longer has the same feelings for me. I dont know if that is because she has OM and is blind by infatuation or if she truly means it, even without OM.
This sucks, Im Hurtin4certain.
Hurtin: 32 WAW: 30 D: 8 Bomb: 10/05 Sep: 12/05 Back together 8/07 Bomb (OM): 11/07 Filed for D (me): 12/07
Accepting it, dealing with it, and letting it go, is all we can do. Sometimes I have 'flashes' of OW and H being together and it knocks me over. I think they are called 'triggers'.
She is blinded right now, pushing her feelings for you aside to justify what she is doing with OM, even if it is just talking to him.
My H told me he no longer loved me and OW was the one for him - it was all rubbish and once the dust settled he saw that and he admits that what OW was was excitement and fantasy - there was no real love involved; it was all infatuation. Once that started to fade there really was nothing left. As soon as OW made real demands that were going to require permanent commitment on my H's part it all crumbled and he came to me to do his dirty work and get rid of the scumbag. Even though he didn't want to be with her he still wanted to be seem as being a nice guy - urgh!!!!! puke Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Hurtin, She has got to realize that a relationship with OM a few states away isn't realistic! Her feelings for you right now are clouded because of this fantasy, just like Saffie said. She'll wake up and smell the coffee one day. Just keep on DB.
Always wanted to visit Co and hike the Rockies. See if John Denver knew what he was singing about in Rocky Mountain High. In what part of CO are you?
Thanks ladies... your words really calmed me down. I can get really nervous sometimes and its hard for me to chill out.
Joie - I live on Longmont, about 30 minutes north of Denver.
The Rocky Mountains truly are a site to see, I highly recommend Estes Park, its a small town with tons of shops and sightseeing. You can rent horses and follow trails up the mountain, very cool.
Hurtin: 32 WAW: 30 D: 8 Bomb: 10/05 Sep: 12/05 Back together 8/07 Bomb (OM): 11/07 Filed for D (me): 12/07
Hi Hurtin, They are all so right. I am still waiting for my H to return home but I do think it will happen, probably not as soon as I would like though. My H's OW was states away too. I do believe she is out of the picture now but it's still hard. My H is like Saffie's, never wants to be seen as the bad guy. The OM won't last. It is really hard to let go, I know. It's taken me a long time and I still struggle. But I am doing better with GAL and now am working on letting him come to me. Hang in there.
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
