All Hope is lost/Help - Part 2

[Evie]

Thanks Piglet,

Meant to say that H was cooking lunch at my house. H cooked a lovely lunch and he enjoyed his time off work to be with the boys. (Goal achieved by getting him to take a day off work a week, so i'm pleased b/c b4 bomb he would never have considered this suggestion....yeah to me)

He looked great to, new jeans and told me of a trendy new jacket he had bought as well.

H never mentioned yesterday and neither did I. I saw his friend who he was with who asked me if H had told me what that had done because what should of lasted half an hour took two!! I said H hadn't told me, so his friend wouldn't either, he was laughing as he said it.

H looked good and sounded good too, he was more upbeat than i have seen him in a long time...

H hung around after lunch until he had to leave for work and we chatted together at the dinner table for an hour. He is concerned about the security of his job and was sharing this with me, I validated his thoughts and agreed that 70 hours a week is an unreasonable amount to work a week - I have been telling him this for years, I guess he thought I was nagging and needed to work this out for himself?. I said you need some work/life balance.

S1 came back to the table and asked H if he loved mommy? H replied 'in a way, yes'....then S1 asked me if i loved daddy and I replied 'yes'.

It was nice to share a meal with him and I enjoyed his company, it was nice and calm and we had time to be together to talk as the kids went back to a dvd they had been watching. B4 this H would have left the table to have a nap b4 he went back to work.

Can anybody suggest a goal or two for me please?

I would like to go out for a meal just the 2 of us, but I want H to plan and ask me and I don't think he will.

Would it be too pursuey (new word!) to text him and thank him for lunch today and say that I enjoyed talking to him, and suggest we go out for meal sometime? I'm reluctant b/c I used to be the social secretary and always plan things and I would feel rejected again if he refused. Any thoughts?

Great to hear from anybody.

X Eve