Long time no post - had to go a different route for a while.
Latest:
Still living in the same home. Still in separate rooms. Her affair with OM is definitely over. She is more mellow, not hateful any more. No longer wants to kick me out - but still says she wants to separate and is now suggesting a scenario where we sell the house and buy two places close to each other ('even next door... I just want space.').
As for me through intensive DBing and 180ing and GALing during the past 15 months (and with plenty of reversals, backsteps and stumbles) I've made some profound changes in my life. I have totally detached (still want to revive our marriage of course but if that doesn't happen I see there is an alternative life to be had) and I feel I am a better person for me, for my children, for my friends. I am stronger, i've been attending to business where I fell down for years (financial mainly), I'm sexier!
Now, what to do.....??
I don't know what stage of MLC (if that is the diagnosis) she is at, and what to do in response. I feel the need to be, or do, something dramatically different, to push the positive energies to a new height somehow. But I don't want to chase. Fundamentally I feel if she has come this far (from outright loathing to benign tolerance), then maybe she can go further and actually rediscover some feelings for me?
Do I wait it out? Or is there something proactive I should be considering.
