I can offer my own feelings although I'm kind of at a different point now, only because I've not seen my H much in the last year. When I was still living at our home and he would drop by often, we would sometimes still be intimate. There was a period of time where I think he purposely did not instigate this with me because on some odd level he felt like he was cheating on the ow. Twisted, I know. Anyway, back then, I did feel that if we could keep this connection going, it was at least something. Hindsight reminds me that it was a stupid, dangerous game I was playing with my health.
Now, present day, I would not continue to be intimate with him, if he were to come visit or what have you. I would welcome him for a visit, but nothing would "happen". It's been over a year since we were together in that way, I don't know who else he may have been with, and I wouldn't want to jeopardize my health. Hey, a girl's gotta protect herself. Also, that would play games with my emotions and I don't want that. So in my case, I wouldn't continue but as I said, I'm not a newbie at this and my view is very different from what it used to be.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
