I think you did well about the phone, just staring at him, handing him the trash (love the irony...trash) and moving on. He knew you weren't sneaking up on him, you were there for a reason. So he can't blame you for 'snooping'. He is so selfish (remember, not dogging your H, I just have a very similar H at home) and just blatantly disrespecting you. I am so sorry, its a horrible feeling.
I know it might be hard...it still is for me...but I would cut off sex. Rob pointed out the obvious, who knows what is going on with him, if he is being safe. We don't even know he is having sex, but the unknown is scary. Also, emotionally, are you really at a point that the sex is sex, and not a chance to 'win him back' or feel closer to him? I lied to myself that sex was ok with H, because I wasn't emotionally involved, but that was so untrue. At first, I would turn him down with no explanations, but I finally told him I can't be with him when he is at the very least emotionally attached to someone else.
I remember many Saturday mornings...H would be on the computer, looking at myspace pictures from the night before (people would post them), laughing at how drunk he was, thinking it was so cool. I saw 'pathetic', he saw 'cool'. Those days have ended for the most part, but it just shows where they are, and its not at home. Your H (as mine) assumes life is great, you are a home with D3, you both are safe, so he can do what he pleases, as long as you don't rock the boat or bring it up.
