I don't know if he is softening or if he is just being nice in hopes that the property settlement will go his way. The true test will be when he sees that I am not agreeable to his suggestions.
Yesterday at the competition you would have never known that we are separated. We chatted and he went to the store and asked me what I would like so we didn't have to eat the awful food there. I told him what happened when I checked in and he explained the room screwup. The were chocolate truffles in his room and the girls room and they gave them to me. They called me in the morning to invite me to breakfast (I missed the call because I was in the shower). It was so normal.
But, again....I have zero expectations. I know the drill now. Kindness when he wants something, coldness when he doesn't get his way or he thinks I am interfering with his life. We are just too much at the beginning of this.
Today we have to go to an open house for a high school. He hasn't been to the previous two so this will be his first (he is going because he has the girls this weekend).
Even with the kindness yesterday, I would look at him and just think "I don't like you".
I read these other posts where you all miss your H. I don't think that I do. Again - I keep focusing on the bad. And not that things were really bad. I just focus on the selfishness and the pretentiousness. I don't understand putting yourself above others and he has done this for a long time.
Is this just anger at the way he has treated me and how he wants to treat me with the property settlement? Or is it the way that I really feel about him?
