We weren't talking about me... this started with the comments you were making about Rs, respect and intimacy in general. Somewhere along the line you started personalizing. But... since you've brought it up... you're right in your assessment. Probably. Feel better? Af for the PWed? Dunno. Never have been myself, so it would be impossible for me to ascertain. Given that I really haven't nailed this R stuff down, I really don't know.
Clearly, you don't need my help to defend yourself- lol- but I just wanted to chime in with the fact that BF can't possibly understand how different it is to try to date and/or form a relationship when you are a middle-aged mother of adolescents who is dating men in their 40s/50s who have been around the block and been burnt quite probably more than just once or twice. It's like trying to fit a life-complicated puzzle piece to your own life-complicated puzzle piece and also deal with the fact that your puzzle pieces are kind of bent-up and frazzled from being shoved into wrong shaped holes for so long and then you stop and ask yourself "Why am I doing this?" or "What am I doing?" because you don't even know what the picture is supposed to look like when you're done putting the puzzle together.
Further note: The 75% of all divorces are filed by women is a lame statistic when used in the manner BF suggested. Clearly, the reason that 75% of all divorces are filed by women is the same reason that 75% of all wedding invitations are picked out by women and 75% of all checks for electric bills are signed and mailed by women.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
