WAW does not want to try

[Lanzo]

Hi wawpioneer,

As hard as it sounds you have no control over your W so you have to put her and your M to one side and work on you. Taking control is about starting to do things for you to lift your spirits and project a positive image. If your W notices and you get a positive reaction from her then that is the added bonus. GAL can be anything from going for walks, taking up dance classes, even calling on friends you don't normally see. (Don't unload your problems on them though). GAL should anything that keeps you active and stops you falling into a depression.

Hard to validate her feelings though when she says such cold things about our relationship and our M.

You're going to hear a lot of stuff like this because in her mind she is continually trying to justify her decision to leave a bad relationship. Argue with her and this will confirm her decision, beg plead or grovel, this will confim her decision. But if you listen and validate it will make her stop and think. You will get more angry words from her but you will need to face it head on and keep listening. If you can do this you will eventually begin to see changes. Don't expect to see immediate changes you will need to develop patience as all of this will take time.

Take care for now