WAW does not want to try

[mako]

See the thread below, especially the post by Just_me, then the post by WAWed quoting Just_me from elsewhere.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1277470&page=7#Post1277470

Validating doesn't necessarily mean agreeing, it means understanding and conveying that you get what she's saying, and that her feelings have merit (even when they do not). When she is validated, she feels more open and conencted, that you are really understanding her. When you argue why you should stay together, you are telling her you don't get it or that her feelings don't have merit, so she will likely just withdraw from you, people don't like to be told they are wrong, particularly when they know they are right.