WAW does not want to try

[wawpioneer]

Thanks micoms, Lanzo, and mako. I needed those strong words of encouragement tonight. I had a hard time after spending so much time walking around in Walmart for over an hour and a half. I am going to my gramma's house tomorrow for a holiday dinner. I still have not heard from WAW. Our councelor wants us to talk for no more than one hour before next Thursday. I appreciate the advice. I will do more listening than talking. Hard to validate her feelings though when she says such cold things about our relationship and our M. I will try hard though especially to not defend myself or the relationship. I think my biggest mistake thus far has been my attempts to present arguement on why she should give us another chance. She may be taking this as me not validating her feelings. How do I validate her feelings though without agreeing with her? I obviously do not agree with her on those issues. I have heard the word "validate" several times and I guess that I am somewhat confused. What words would you recommend to use to validate her feelings? After I validate...then what? I feel clueless here. Thanks!

Lanzo...I think that I am having a hard time taking control of my situation. I told my bf yesterday that I am having a hard time GAL. I don't know what to do. Any suggestions on how to take control and GAL? Thanks!