Dangit, your H is ticking me off. Just one comment about things exploding there soon. You've stood by for two months waiting for H to make a move. If it's about to boil over, be very careful how you handle any confrontation. You're still in the early stages of DBing right now considering you and H haven't had any R talks and the A isn't fully out of the bag. If, or once they make a move, things are going to change very rapidly for them. Right now they have their spouses at home with the kids while they are free to have fun. If this moves towards them being together - both will have to face their families. Your H might realize that it's not all fun and games with the OW. What is fun adult time all the time would turn into what he's trying to run from. Doesn't she have a few kids? They are living in a fantasy world where they don't have responsibilities. They don't see each other after a rough day with the kids, a hard day at work, personal crisis. Given how immature your H is acting, I don't think he's going to find the reality of her life and responsibilities too appealing if that's what he chooses.
((((SUE)))) Hold your head up lady. You have a precious D that loves and adores you. Everything is going to be OK. You're getting stronger every day and can do this!
